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I’m not a very good blogger …

Posted by doatmon on August 25, 2009

So apparently I am a horrible blogger.

I like to think of myself as a decent writer and at least somewhat humorous.

But I am apparently a horrible blogger.

And you know what?  Now that I think about it…I am.

I opened myself up to critique by commenting on the “mommy blog” phenomenon in yesterday’s post and as a result started getting critiqued in return.

My posts are too long.  I don’t include any pictures.  My layout is unreadable.  I don’t “blog-work” … my new term for networking my blog.  I don’t write anything that anyone other than my friends and family would care about.

I think those are ALL valid criticisms.

That said, I’m not about to change some of them.

1)      My Posts Are Too Long – I am long-winded.  I just am.  It’s partly an off-shoot of my former career and partly just my nature.  But the beauty of this blog is that it’s free and I’m doing it for myself and for anyone interested in life as a Stay-At-Home-Dad and as a “daddy blogger.”  I will try to keep them shorter (Kayak story aside), but don’t expect any monologue jokes or Reader’s Digest entries.

2)      I Don’t Include Any Pictures – I have done this somewhat intentionally, but I can see I’ve taken it too far.  This blog isn’t about my daughter’s dance recitals or family vacations in and of themselves.  If you want those pictures, add me on Facebook.  This blog is about my feelings toward the dance recitals and the vacations.  I express that in words.  That said, my page is drab and one long body of text.  Variety is the spice of life.  That’s why I developed the gold course theory of relationships in the seventh grade.  I didn’t get my first girlfriend until high school.  Not a coincidence.  I need to recall the basis of that brilliant theory so to whet your appetite, here is a picture of Chicken Nugget (NSFW).

Chicken Nugget During Last Year's SB

3)      My Layout is Unreadable – Perhaps.  I am Red-Green colorblind and as a result don’t see colors like most people.  As a result, I tend to go with what I think the colors represent rather than how they look.  Maybe the red was a poor choice.  But hey, it looks black to me.  Also, I know my page is busy, but I have always been a “substance over form” kind of guy.  But I am working to alter the lay-out.  I hope you’ll be patient with me.

4)      I don’t “Blog-work” – I’m trying!!!  I really am.  I recently discovered the dad-blog community and it is one in which I feel comfortable and which I respect.  I hope to develop a more consistent relationship with members of that community.  After all, community development is the real reason I have considered expanding this blog beyond friends and family and the reason I get so sensitive when all of these “Mommy blogger” stories come out.  I want to find a community of dads…a community of SAHDs…one in which I can both give and receive information, encouragement and insults.  One in which the parenting thoughts of dads is on par with moms and recognition is given to dads participating in the blogosphere.

5)      I Don’t Write Anything That Anyone Cares About – I shortened that one.  See, I’m taking the criticism to heart.  You know what? I may not.  But at this time, this blog is for me.  It’s for the select few, the silent minority that is like me or cares what someone likes me thinks.  Those people will read.  If anyone else reads, I am honored and humbled.  But at this point in my blogging life, they are not my target audience.

I appreciate all of the feed-back and I genuinely mean it when I say I welcome it.  I have reached out to some bloggers asking for their advice on how to be a better blogger.  I am trying.  I am.

And that goes for my blogging, my parenting, my marriage and certainly my kayaking.


6 Responses to “I’m not a very good blogger …”

  1. Mary B. said

    I just started blogging and I don’t know what the hell I’m doing either. If you figure it out, let me know. You get a laundry list of criticism about your blogging techniques? Oy! No thanks! 🙂 PS-I spent my childhood summers in Ohio with MY dad…

  2. 1. The color changes you made work and are much easier on the eyes, pleasant even.
    2. Write your posts in the length that you want them. Self edit and post. There is no set length they should be. You will see bloggers postings that are 3 sentences and some that novelette in length. It’s up to you and what you want you have to say.
    C. Post for yourself. Write for yourself. Never write based on what you think ‘people will want to read’. Write for you and readers will follow.
    4. Visit other blogs and when you read something you like, leave a comment. That is the best networking or ‘blog-work’. It’s nice work when you are reading what you enjoy.
    E. Visit my blogroll to read some really awesome dad bloggers who write about recitals and family and people come to read. You will soon find yourself with your own blog community.

  3. I found your site from the “2010, Year of the Daddy Blogger” post. I think you definitely have some valid points regarding the overshadowing of Dad bloggers by Mom bloggers. I’ve been able to find a few that are decent (besides my own of course, lol). Shoot me an email if you’d like me to share.

  4. 1. A blogger writes to express a point. If that’s a long post, GREAT! IF that’s a short post, GREAT!

    2. I had VERY FEW pictures until I got off dial up (within the last year) – The only thing I can say about pictures is that… Pictures are worth a thousand words… Once I started adding pictures, my blog posts started shortening up a bit… (see above)

    3. Not sure… Based on previous comments, you have changed it. Since I never saw the previous layout, I can only comment on this one… It looks JUST FINE.

    4. I have found more promotion through just reading other Dads Blogs and leaving comments on them… I have struck up several very good friendships from guys that live on the other side of the country from me… But through commenting on their blog, and their friends, I have found other great dads, and other great readers!!

    5. Stick to your guns there… Blog for YOURSELF and not for others… Or if it is for others, make it for your family!

    (Taken from my blog… Why do I blog)

    I am keeping this blog as a collection of thoughts for my children (but others are welcome to enjoy too)…. Someday I hope they have they chance to read this. My work and our hectic family lifestyle keeps me very busy. I hate to admit this but sometimes so busy that I don’t spend as much time with my kids and family as I want to, or as I should…. Although I am not always with them – they are ALWAYS with me….

    Stay true to yourself, to your vision, and to what you want to accomplish with your blog.. Otherwise it will become a chore, and just “one more thing on my list of stuff to do”…

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